The 5 Phases of Sonship

Growing into Spiritual Maturity

Xolani Hlatswayo

6/29/20255 min read

"For the earnest expectation of the creation eagerly waits for the revealing of the sons of God." - Romans 8:19 NKJV

Creation itself is holding its breath, waiting with eager anticipation for something extraordinary—the full manifestation of God's sons. This profound truth points to a spiritual journey that every believer is called to embark upon: growing into sonship. But what does it mean to be a son or daughter of God, and how do we mature into this divine calling?

Understanding Biblical Sonship

Sonship isn't merely about being saved or born again—it's about growing into the full stature and maturity of Jesus Christ himself. The Greek word "helikia" used in Ephesians 4:13 speaks of maturity, a state where one becomes like Christ Jesus in both speech and action. Even Jesus himself "grew in wisdom and stature" (Luke 2:52), demonstrating that sonship is a developmental process.

This concept becomes even more powerful when we understand the biblical meaning of adoption. The Greek word "uihothesia" literally means "the placing as a son"—a formal, legal act that transforms status completely. In the Graeco-Roman world, adoption wasn't just about family sentiment; it was a serious legal mechanism with profound implications.

The Ancient Practice of Adoption

In Roman society, adoption served crucial purposes beyond emotional connection. When a paterfamilias (the male head of a family) had no biological heir, he might adopt a trusted friend, nephew, or even an outsider to preserve the family legacy. These adoptions weren't just about continuing bloodlines—they were about maintaining family names, estates, and religious duties.

Political leaders understood this power. Julius Caesar adopted Octavian (later Augustus), and Emperor Nerva adopted Trajan, using adoption to cement succession and ensure stability. The result was transformational: an adopted son gained full legal status, including the family name, inheritance rights, and social standing, while completely severing legal ties with his birth family.

This is the profound metaphor Paul uses to describe our relationship with God. When we're adopted into God's family, we don't just receive a spiritual upgrade—we receive a complete transformation of identity, inheritance, and destiny.

The Five Phases of Spiritual Sonship

Understanding sonship as a journey rather than a single event helps us navigate our spiritual growth with both patience and intentionality. Here are the five distinct phases every believer passes through on their path to mature sonship:

Phase 1: New Birth (Regeneration)

"But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name: who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God." - John 1:12-13

The journey begins with regeneration—the supernatural act of being born again. This isn't a human decision or effort but a divine intervention. Just as physical birth introduces us to the natural world, spiritual birth introduces us to the kingdom of God. At this moment, we receive the legal right to be called children of God, but we're still spiritual infants requiring growth and development.

This phase is marked by wonder, discovery, and often dramatic change as new believers encounter God's love and forgiveness for the first time. Like newborns, they're completely dependent on spiritual milk and require constant care and feeding from more mature believers.

Phase 2: Putting on the New Man (Transformation)

"That you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness." - Ephesians 4:22-24

The second phase involves conscious transformation—actively putting off old patterns and putting on new ones. This is where spiritual disciplines become crucial: prayer, Bible study, fellowship, and obedience to God's Word. It's a process of renewing the mind and aligning thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors with God's character.

This phase often involves struggle as believers learn to crucify the flesh and walk in the Spirit. Old habits die hard, and the tension between the old nature and new nature creates internal conflict. However, it's through this process that character is formed and spiritual muscles are developed.

Phase 3: Service from Sonship

"Therefore, holy brethren, partakers of the heavenly calling, consider the Apostle and High Priest of our confession, Christ Jesus, who was faithful to Him who appointed Him, as Moses also was faithful in all His house." - Hebrews 3:1-6

Jesus served as a Son in God's house, and similarly, mature believers learn to serve from their position as sons and rather than as slaves. This is a crucial distinction—slaves serve out of obligation and fear, while sons serve out of love and inheritance.

In this phase, believers discover their unique calling and begin to operate in their spiritual gifts. They serve not to earn God's love but because they already possess it. Their service flows from identity rather than insecurity, from abundance rather than lack. They understand that they're not just workers in God's kingdom—they're heirs with a vested interest in its success.

Phase 4: Maturity - The Measure of Christ's Stature

"Till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ." - Ephesians 4:13

The fourth phase represents reaching spiritual maturity—the measure of the stature of Christ himself. This doesn't mean perfection in the absolute sense, but rather a state of spiritual stability, wisdom, and Christ-like character that influences others naturally.

Mature sons and daughters no longer need constant supervision or correction. They've internalized God's principles and can be trusted with greater responsibility and authority. They become spiritual parents themselves, capable of nurturing and developing others. Their lives consistently reflect Christ's character in both prosperity and adversity.

This phase is marked by deep intimacy with God, supernatural wisdom in decision-making, and the ability to bring God's kingdom to bear on earthly circumstances. They operate in their inheritance, wielding spiritual authority with humility and effectiveness.

Phase 5: Glorification - The Final Redemption

The final phase—glorification—will occur when Jesus returns for His Church. This is when death itself (the last enemy, according to 1 Corinthians 15) will be completely destroyed, and believers will never taste death again. Even nature itself will be redeemed from corruption and decay.

This represents the full manifestation of the sons of God that all creation is eagerly waiting for. Our physical bodies will be transformed, our spirits will be perfected, and we'll enter into the fullness of our eternal inheritance. The adoption process that began with regeneration will reach its ultimate conclusion as we're fully conformed to the image of Christ.

Living as Sons Today

Understanding these phases helps us navigate our spiritual journey with both grace and intentionality. We can assess where we are in the process without condemnation, recognizing that growth takes time and that each phase has its own purpose and beauty.

If you're in the early phases, embrace the learning process. Allow yourself to be discipled and mentored by those who've walked further along the path. If you're in the later phases, remember your responsibility to help others grow into their own sonship.

The promise remains constant: creation itself is waiting for the full revelation of who we're becoming. We're not just saved souls heading to heaven—we're sons and daughters of the Most High God, growing into the full measure of Christ's stature, destined to reign with Him for eternity.

The question isn't whether you're a child of God if you've been born again—the question is: which phase of sonship are you growing into, and how will you intentionally partner with God's Spirit to reach the next level of maturity?

Your destiny as a son or daughter of God is not just about your personal blessing—it's about the very redemption of creation itself. The world is waiting for you to step into the fullness of who God has called you to be.